E-Mail Tips
Emailing is a great way to begin getting to know someone. The following
is a list of tips to consider when writing an effective email which
will hopefully ensure a successful reply.
Create a cool subject line. The subject of your email
is the first and could be the only thing that will be viewed so to increase
the chances of your email getting read, it is better to come up with
something more eye-catching than just “hello.” Most people
use hello in their subject line so your email will stand out if you
can some up with something a little more creative. It could be as simple
as mentioning a common interest that you both share and offering a time
to get together and do it.
Keep those emails short and sweet. You need to limit
your emails to one paragraph or two especially the first email. You
want to keep their attention and singles can have a short attention
span so keep those emails small and engaging otherwise you will risk
them getting deleted. You just don’t want to bombard someone with
too much information as they are least likely to read it all and probably
will not respond.
Keep it positive. Don’t ever mention in your
email that you don’t meet a requirement mentioned in their profile.
Let them decide if their parameters need bending. You don’t want
to eliminate yourself before they do. Your email should focus on your
positive attributes. Provide them with some enticing tidbits.
Ask them a question. Don’t send an email to
someone with a one sentence vague comment like “I thought your
profile was funny.” Try including a reason why their profile was
funny as well as ask a question about it. You need to give the person
a reason to respond to your email and there is no better way to achieve
this than by asking them a question about their profile. Think of emails
as a two way conversation. By asking someone a question about their
profile you are making it easier for them to respond by giving them
something to talk about. You can ask them about a common interest or
hobby, comment on their career and don’t forget to include a compliment
which will make them feel special.
All about them. No one wants to read three or four
paragraphs where you are only taking about yourself which is a sure
fire way to elicit no reply from the peanut gallery. A friend of mine
once got a novel which was filled with all you ever wanted to know about
AGreatCatch but this “catch” never bothered to comment about
my friend’s profile. She turned to me and asked “How am
I suppose to respond to this email and I bet he sent the same email
out to several other women?” She ended up deleting the email and
Mr. Great Catch was tossed back out to sea. Enough about you and your
life make sure your email focus on their interests.
Respond quickly. In order to keep the momentum going
you should respond to emails within a reasonable amount of time. Ideally
no more than a couple of days should pass between emails. Make sure
you are not bombarding them with bunches of emails. Give them time to
respond otherwise you will come across as being too eager or too desperate.
Look out for bad grammar and misspelled words. There
is nothing worse than sending someone an email that contains improper
word spellings or poor grammar. If the site does not have spell check
than do yourself a favor by writing your emails in a program that lets
you run a spelling and grammar check. This process will only take a
minute and will at least put you in the running for a reply back.
Don’t send someone a suggestive or provocative email
unless you are on the appropriate site. Someone once sent me
an email that said “When I saw your photos, I was curious enough
to pause my Girls Gone Wild Video and shoot you an email.”
While this can be considered a funny opener, it is not a good idea to
send for a first email as you don’t know how the person will react.
I would error on the side of caution and be careful not to send an email
that is suggestive or provocative as you need to know your audience
before you send this type of email.
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