My Dating Journal
2005
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August 2005
Monday, August 1
Total emails: 47 Total IM’s: 34
9AM - My single friend who has decided to take herself off the dating
market (going into a serious committed relationship) has recycled one
of her on-line potentials over to me. She says he sends the cutest emails
with animated faces and I have to admit that I am a little curious to
see these faces for myself. Well this morning I got my first email from
smiley guy and I have to say it is filled with cute adorable animated
faces. It must take him some time to put these kinds of faces into emails
at the appropriate time. I wrote him back minus the animation.
Tuesday, August 2
Total emails: 50 Total IM’s: 36
7PM - Logged in and saw the following email:
Hum no picture on this profile and I am leery - divorced with two children.
I ask him why his photos are not posted directly on his profile.
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I
would be more than happy to send pics of me to your
email address, if that is ok.........believe me, I'm
one of the normal ones on this land.
well
in speaking w/ some of my female friends, nothing
but horror stories......I'm glad you have had good
luck in meeting people.........again, I have no problem
emailing pics to you and hope maybe we can meet.
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Do you believe this guy?! How does he measure normal?!! Who is really
normal these days? I asked and got the following:
You know I really don’t like men who make promises to someone
they just don’t know! And something smells fishy about his ex-wife
or is she REALLY an ex-wife?! I give him my email to
forward the pictures. I have an email account that I use specifically
for dating which does not give my true name.
10PM - I received the photo from Mr. respectful to my ex-wife and well
let’s just say that he fell short of all his email promises! This
fish just smells too fishy so I decided to throw it back.
Wednesday, August 3
Total emails: 51 Total IM’s: 36
8PM - Talked to Psych major on the phone for the first time. I always
find myself hoping for a good speaking voice. At first it sounded like
he was talking in a funny boisterous weird voice and I found myself
saying please let him talk normal! We did end up having a nice conversation
most of it focused on my career exploration (I am taking some classes
at an outplacement agency). Hey using my dating as a networking tool
for jobs can be a double function. We agreed to meet for lunch on Sunday
but no plans were made. Said he would think about it and call later
in the week.
Thursday, August 4
Total emails: 53 Total IM’s: 38
9AM - Another cute email from smiley guy. How does he seem to fit the
right animations with the words? He gives me his phone number so I said
I would phone him sometime. So hard to fit everyone into the schedule!
Saturday, August 6
3PM - Got a call from psych major to make the plans for our lunch on
Sunday. Come to find out that he has got no plan like he promised and
as usual it falls on me! Very disappointed. He can’t seem to come
up with any places to eat! Women like a man with a plan and well it
shows that he is not putting any effort into our date. I picked a place
and set the plans.
Sunday, August 7
Noon - Met psych major for lunch at my chosen restaurant. The weather
was not cooperating as I had to drive through a huge rain storm (hum
not a good sign). He was already waiting for me at the restaurant. Looks
a bit weathered than his pictures. Move beyond the physical and proceeded
with the one-on-one chat. I felt like I was talking to a girlfriend
because we chatted about old friends and TV shows (apparently he loved
the show “hooking up” as well as “the bachelor”).
Seemed to love gossip about people. Notice the conversation was not
focused on us. I was just not feeling any chemistry and when I tried
to picture being physical with him well it was not just something that
appealed to me so I knew this would be the first and last date with
psych major. Hum he says that he has a work contact for me. What’s
a girl to do? I thought about it and I have got to be true to myself.
I don’t want to fake it and go out again so I decide to be honest.
Monday, August 8
Total emails: 55 Total IM’s: 40
10AM - Well it appears that psych major has to decided to provide me
with the work contact information. He is a true gentleman who earns
respect in my book. Too bad I just don’t feel any chemistry with
him. Oh well on to the next one!
8PM - Called smiley guy and was a bit startled by his voice! He sounded
like he was talking with rocks in his mouth. I found myself cringing
as I was listening to him talk. Has he had jaw surgery but he did not
mention any surgery! Then abruptly he asks if I would call him back
in about 15 minutes so I say alright. When I do call back, he proceeds
to tell me what he ate and how it did not agree with him and how he
has been in the bathroom. Okay a little too much information for me
to hear! I like sharing but this is way too much and now I am plain
grossed out! I did not agree to any meet ups and just said nice talking
to you..…gotta go! Good thing I called him and I turned off the
caller id (a good dating trick I learned to cover your ass). Will forward
him an email tomorrow that I don’t think we are a match.
Wednesday, August 10
Total emails: 56 Total IM’s: 40
10AM - Got the following tease from Double07
Does not make any sense to me so I reply back asking him to explain
it besides his profile shows that he has written to me before but I
am drawing a blank?! There are no pictures posted on his profile.
Thursday, August 11
Total emails: 58 Total IM’s: 20
9AM - Reply back from the secret agent:
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I
was just trying to friendly and sociable. That's all!
Your profile and pictures are very appealing! I like
that you have a certain appeal. Find you very attractive
and I generally am drawn to petite women.
I
can send you a picture or two if you like also. Perhaps
we can chat over coffee this weekend. Look forward
to getting acquainted with you. Something tell's me
we would enjoy each other's company immensely!
Sincerely,
Double07
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Well there will be no meet up without first seeing some pictures. I
gave him my email to forward his pictures. I am wondering yea he finds
me attractive but what’s in it for me?!! I am not getting the
same prediction that he seems to be hearing! We shall see!!
10PM - Check my emails and I have received the photo from Double07
and now I remember him writing to me about four years ago! Yep totally
the same picture. Looks like he is trying to be an English professor
leaning up against a bunch of books on shelves wearing an brown (out
of style) member’s only jacket with a pink shirt. I know this
picture is very dated and I proceed to try and get to the bottom of
secret. Additionally he profile is flooded with grammar errors and repeated
use of the same essays. Ah my two pet peeves. I write him back with
the intention of helping him out.
Friday, August 12
Total emails: 59 Total IM’s: 22
9PM - A night of cocktails, jazz music, candles and talking on the
phone to out of town connection (yes we are having a phone date). While
on the phone I am checking my emails (a great multi-taker) when I noticed
a reply email from Double07:
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Wow, you're really cold and judgemental.
Might you just consider someone could be in a hurry
in their reply or possibly be not quite in their right
state of mind. Perhaps I had a mis-spelling because
I've been distraught as my mother passed away last
week. I don't like people especially women who prejudge
other's. It show's a coldness, and lack of compassion.
I
don't think you're a nice person to make such remarks
about my picture. I'm not the one who continues on
their endless search for someone who doesn't exist.
I can see that you'll be single and lonely for quite
some time with your cynical and jaded attitude. I
defintely don't care to meet you. I like nice
people.
I hadn't been on in a long time as I was dating some
very nice women.
Goodbye.
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This was not enough he also sends another one about a minute later:
Hum his profile says sensitive but not overly so well I find Mr. Sensitive’s
emails hysterical! I think his name should be Mr. Sensitive but not
overly so and not Double07 (who is he kidding)! I was reading them to
out of town connection who was laughing and suggesting that I send him
the local insane asylum’s telephone number. Hello nutcase!! Mr.
Sensitive is totally crazy and I am so glad that I sensed something
was not quite right about him. See what bad grammar and miss-spelling
will get you!! Out of town connection loves the fact that I am totally
myself around him and not pretending to be someone else. Thank God I
dodged this crazy bullet!
Monday, August 15
Total emails: 62 Total IM’s: 25
11AM - Got the following email:
Intrigued I checked out his profile so see what was so different and
read the following in his profile:
Interesting profile, we start up an email correspondence. Think I will
only have an email buddy with this one.
Thursday, August 18
Total emails: 64 Total IM’s: 25
10AM - Read the following email:
This email does not make me want to write to lonely old fashioned TV
man. Sounds like a red flag to me.
Sunday, August 21
Total emails: 64 Total IM’s: 27
10AM - Spent this morning IM with someone who became pushy man. I told
him that I was unable to meet him today (plans) or call but he kept
insisting. I really don’t like it when men push their numbers
on you and part of me likes it when they want to call me. Call me old
fashioned but deep down I am! Well I said if I had the time I would
call later which was doubtful.
Monday, August 22
Total emails: 67 Total IM’s: 27 Sent Emails: 3
7PM - Decided to try a free trial membership of yet another dating
site. I need to go fishing in another pool. Never get all your fish
from one net! New identity name for me and with it comes some new behaviors.
Since I only had a limited amount of time (trial offer), decided to
take matters in my own hands and write to some men for a change. Sometimes
you need to shake things up a bit. I am feeling very powerful my destiny
is in my hands. Wrote some really funny off the wall emails and boom
I am successful with the email return! You go and get them girl!! Feeling
very good about myself today!!
Also received an IM from busy guy. Seems as though he was waiting by
the phone but I just did not have the time to give him a call. Hey I
made no promises. He needs to learn patience if he has not learned that
from his children. He kind of rubs me the wrong way since he wants to
move to the phone because he does not like email. What about what I
feel comfortable doing?! Seems like he is a bit self centered.
Wednesday, August 24
Total emails: 68 Total IM’s: 27 Sent Emails: 3 Return from sent
emails: 2
Okay what am I a call girl?!! He is a little too old for me! Next!!
Thursday, August 26
Total emails: 68 Total IM’s: 28
7PM - Log in and instantly receive an IM from pushy man, Why haven’t
you called me. I don’t like email.” I told him that I have
been busy (what is he my husband). He asks if now is a good time? In
all honesty I had a bad day complete with a headache and I just wanted
time alone. He comes back with, “I don’t like to chase women.
Bye.” Okay you know what that was his last straw with me. Glad
to know he is all about him and I would always have to appease him on
his terms. I don’t need any of that……next!!!
Saturday, August 27
Total emails: 68 Total IM’s: 31
11:30AM - Recovering from a hang over from the night before guess I
can’t handle the booze like when I was in college. Had met a friend
for drinks and Mexican food. Logged on and started instant messaging
with two guys at the same time. One younger and one older who says he
is moving into my area (fresh meat). Apparently could have attempted
to IM three guys but I will limit myself to two.
Sunday, August 28
Total emails: 68 Total IM’s: 31 Total sightings: 3
1PM - Went to a local festival with a friend. It is funny when you
recognize people from the dating sites at a local event. I saw this
head doctor guy at the festival walking around with a girl. Hum so that
is what happened to head doctor I was thinking to myself as I used to
see him on line all the time at several dating sites. Yes I recognize
them just like a celebrity! It was funny because he also looked at me
and I had the feeling that he recognized me too! And yes his picture
was a little bit dated but you still could recognize the face. I would
go out with him should I ever find him back on the dating circuit! Think
it would be interesting to go out with a head doctor.
3PM - Oh my who should walk by me but Olivia Newton John lover (aka
shaky hands)! Luckily for me he was not paying attention but like I
said he is not extremely aware. I pointed him out to my friend who said
“Oh no, no no no! Not for you girl!” She felt bad for me
but we have all been there before. “Sure he is a nice guy”,
she says and “he just wants to meet”. I know that I am just
not that someone! Sometimes you just can’t tell too much from
pictures on profiles until you see them live in all their glory!
My friend ran into a girl that she knew and when she introduced me
she made a point to let me know that this girl is now dating a former
boyfriend of hers Mr. football lover. He was a sweet guy but it just
was not there for her. After meeting this girl, we both concluded that
there really is someone for everyone! Don’t ever give up hope!
I also ran into an outdoor lover guy friend who made a point to say
to me that he always notices me online! Hum are you looking at my profile
outdoor buddy?! Guess I am becoming a celebrity too! Who knew!!
Monday, August 29
Total emails: 70 Total IM’s: 33
12:30PM - Geez first time getting two IM’s at the very same time!
Wow did not know that was possible. This joint was jumping! Pushy man
is IMing me unbelievable! I am choosing to ignore it since he had his
opportunity but he blew it by being a pushy jerk. He said goodbye apparently
did not mean it. He seems to be all about him and well I don’t
need that! Leave me alone please! I just don’t have the time since
I have my own new crop to weed. The other one oldpro is well over my
professional age limit and apparently he can’t seem to get the
picture since he keeps IMing me! Ignore!!
Tuesday, August 30
Total emails: 72 Total IM’s: 33
Got an email today from fresh meat and he says that he just found out
today that his company is not going to re-locate him to my area. I tried
to be nice and say at least he has got a huge selection of singles in
his area (consolation speech). He says if you don’t live in a
certain area and do extremely well financially, it’s hard to meet
people as you are very discriminated against. Hum now I understand why
he kept asking me about the areas in my city. He is way too negative
and I hear some issues. I am glad that he is not moving here. Next please!
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